Growing up, my dad had a plant in his office that sat in the corner, year after year.
It was a Golden Pothos, commonly called a pothos or devil’s ivy. The plant is remarkably resilient. You can trim a vine, place it in water, wait for roots to appear, and start an entirely new plant.
Somewhere along the way, my sister became the caretaker of dad’s pothos. In one form or another, that plant has existed for decades. Last year on a visit to her home, she presented me with my own “Dad plant.” This was the second attempt, because I killed the first one she gave me.
Determined not to repeat history, I found a place where our pets could not reach it. I created a watering schedule. Occasionally I rinsed the leaves. Beyond that, I mostly left it alone.
Six months later, it had more than doubled in size.
When I compared the current plant to an older photograph, I was surprised by how much growth had occurred without me really noticing.
For me, deliberate growth has become a hallmark of how I approach time, purpose, and life. I’ve not always been good at it. Yet, as I have learned to combine intention with patience, I’ve come to appreciate that meaningful growth rarely arrives in dramatic moments. More often it comes through small actions repeated consistently.
The pothos reminded me of several lessons.
Providing Adequate Light
Plants need light to grow. People do too.
As a leader, when I fail to communicate clearly about priorities, schedules, or expectations, I unintentionally leave others in the dark. Confusion can quickly replace clarity, with energy being spent on staying busy rather than making meaningful progress.
The same thing happens in our personal lives. When we lose sight of what matters most, we can fill our time and still struggle to grow. Clarity provides direction, helping us understand where our time and energy should be invested.
One of the questions I ask often is: “What else do you need from me?” It is a simple way to bring a little more light into the situation.
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Established Root System
A few weeks ago, life became unusually busy. I still had a calendar. I still had a plan. But I stopped investing the same level of energy into organizing my days. It did not take long before outside events started pulling me in directions I had not intended to go.
Strong roots matter.
I see the same principle when discussing retirement planning. It is possible to spend decades building financial resources for retirement while investing considerably less time developing purpose, relationships, routines, and a personal identity outside of work.
Then retirement arrives, a health challenge appears, or life changes unexpectedly. We can suddenly discover that the foundation beneath us was not as deep as we assumed. Roots are built long before they are needed.
Suddenly they discover the foundation beneath them was not as deep as they assumed. Roots are built long before they are needed.
Consistent Watering
The pothos does not need attention every hour. It simply needs consistent care.
Life seems to work the same way. Sleep, exercise, rest, and healthy boundaries rarely create immediate transformation, yet their absence eventually becomes noticeable. Consistent personal care provides the energy needed to support everything else we are trying to accomplish.
I still battle getting enough sleep. It remains one of the areas where I know improvement would create benefits throughout the rest of my life. The challenge is that personal care can begin to feel optional when life gets busy, even though those are often the periods when we need it the most.
Growth requires energy, and consistently caring for ourselves is part of providing it.
Elevated Placement
The pothos sits high on a shelf in my office. Part of that decision was practical. If I place it lower, one of our cats will eventually decide the leaves look like a snack.
However, its placement also reminds me of the importance of perspective. It is easy to become trapped in today’s emails, meetings, frustrations, and tasks without periodically lifting our eyes beyond the immediate demands of life.
Where am I trying to go? What am I building? What kind of life am I creating? These are questions that can get lost when our attention is consumed by what needs to happen today.
Whether thinking about next quarter, the next decade, or retirement itself, perspective helps connect today’s decisions to tomorrow’s outcomes.
Patience, Even When it is Slow
For six months I walked past that plant almost every day. I watered it and made sure it had enough light.
If you had asked me two months ago whether it was growing, I probably would have shrugged and said, “A little.” Then I looked at the old photo.
Growth had been happening the entire time, even though I had been too close to it to recognize how much had changed. The same thing can happen in life.
Progress in purpose, relationships, health, retirement readiness, and personal growth is rarely dramatic from day to day. It can be difficult to see because we are often too close to the process to recognize what is changing.
Only later do we look back and realize something meaningful was taking place all along. Maybe that is why slow growth is so easy to overlook.
Thankfully, every now and then, life gives us an old photograph, a memory, or even a plant sitting quietly in the corner of an office to remind us that growth was happening the entire time.
David Buck is the author of the book The Time-Optimized Life, coauthor of The Retirement Collective, and owner of Kairos (Time) Management Solutions, LLC. Learn how to apply the concepts of proactively planning and using your time. Take the Time Management Analysis (TMA), the Retirement Time Analysis (RTA), or all the other free resources offered to help bring more quality time into your life.
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